So i am madly in love with my wife, she is awesome. We work on our marriage daily, and often, when we have a chance, we will go to a marriage seminar or workshop. For us, there is a deliberate effort.
What I dislike about these seminars, is that the man is usually always the “bad guy,” we can’t seem to get it right, we keep dropping the ball. I asked my pastor why this is the case, and he tactfully said, (and I paraphrase) “historically the man is dubbed the head of the household and the responsibility for it’s success is first on him.”
See, we love the power – of being the head of the house – and wield it when it is to our advantage. The problem is that as the leader, there is also a heavier load to carry – you know… with great power comes great responsibility – spiderman (i think).
The difference between now and times-past is that we want the privilege which comes with power, but not the burden.
In marriage counseling, we also learnt that there are two ways people deal with conflict, and that is fight or flight. Simply put, you either stay and confront the situation, or you run away (emotionally or physically.) Again, too many of us are choosing the latter.
So, marriage is hard work, even when I stay and fight, it is not always positive, and it usually always hurts. But the alternative – being flighty – is not an option.
I want to leave you with this, in and of myself, I cannot win this fight. Greater men than me have lost the fight for fidelity, accountability, and honor. That is when my faith in Christ fills the gap. Nehemiah 4:14 says:
After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, ‘Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.’
read the full context here: Nehemiah 4:14







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