I am one of those guys who is into Facebook. I also like to “share” a lot. My wife thinks I am a “Like” addict, she thinks I need Facebook help… yeah, it’s that serious!
I am that dude that always wants to be liked – it is a fundamental personality flaw. I have borderline insecure/self-conscious tendencies. I AM WORKING ON THIS …promise.
For me, my social fetish started out pretty practical. My family lives in Africa, and they NEVER get any sort of insight into me and my life here in the States. I can be super superficial with my parents even over Skype. So when “The Facebook” became huge, and my parents in Nigeria got an account, and my friends in Holland started to Poke me, I figured “hey, now we can all do life together…” I could share pictures of the babies and my family and share about good and not-so-good times.
This has worked for me because, now, when I speak to daddy, he KNOWS when things are not right with me, he can go through my status updates, and read between the lines, and when he looks at me or hears my voice, he can pry. Facebook, and Twitter allow me to share with the world, but then provides clues as to my real status to those who care about me.
So far so good right? Social media allows me to connect and share and all that good stuff. But, nowadays, it’s getting a little ridiculous! I am getting friend requests from people who think they know me, and I gluttonously accept – because I want my friend count to be enormous. And I post updates (and sometimes exaggerate) because I am craving some sort of attention. aaahhh…. I am working on this too.
Now that you’ve had a glance into my issues. I would like to share with you something that I am very proud of, and that is the Solutions Award (pictured above). So far I’ve told you how I tend to solicit ooh’s and aah’s by posting the best and extreme parts of my life on my social networks… but in the second week of January 2011, I received an “Xfinity Guiding Principles Award” for “Delivering Solutions” at CIM. This was completely unexpected! I was shocked! I work with REALLY smart people, much of whom I respect very much, and even though I work very hard, I did not think I would get THIS award! If there were any awards I would want, it would be this one – because it means they think I work hard too.
The crazy humbling part of this award is that it represents the slow, un-glamorous, day-to-day grinding, caffeine-sustained bouts of hard work – the part of my life that NOONE wants to know about – that I would never share, except with those people who matter!
The point of this post is this: unsolicited praise is awesome! It is reassuring, affirming, encouraging, morale and ego boosting awesomeness! I got soo emotional when I heard one of my managers say “[he] …doesn’t admire problems, is a solution-oriented person, and collaborates to just find away…” – IT WAS SO SWEET! …and something in me said, “this feels good… this is the right type of attention…”
I want my dad to be proud of me – and I know he is!
thank you!







